<?xml version='1.0' encoding='UTF-8'?><?xml-stylesheet href="http://www.blogger.com/styles/atom.css" type="text/css"?><feed xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom' xmlns:openSearch='http://a9.com/-/spec/opensearchrss/1.0/' xmlns:georss='http://www.georss.org/georss' xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860</id><updated>2012-02-16T11:03:41.251-08:00</updated><category term='Wisdom'/><category term='Alex'/><category term='Kael'/><title type='text'>geekabytes</title><subtitle type='html'></subtitle><link rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/posts/default'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default?max-results=100'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/'/><link rel='hub' href='http://pubsubhubbub.appspot.com/'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><generator version='7.00' uri='http://www.blogger.com'>Blogger</generator><openSearch:totalResults>14</openSearch:totalResults><openSearch:startIndex>1</openSearch:startIndex><openSearch:itemsPerPage>100</openSearch:itemsPerPage><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860.post-5852214180171692564</id><published>2011-03-14T19:41:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2011-03-14T20:35:36.296-07:00</updated><title type='text'>iPad + instapaper + reeder = ARE YOU KIDDING ME THIS IS SO AWESOME?!</title><content type='html'>I originally intended to have this post cover the apps I consider most useful and the most value adding for the iPad, but in the end, I've decided to focus on two apps that I just bought over the weekend and how they have changed my life.&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;I'll repeat. I bought two apps for the iPad and they have already changed my life. In my opinion, these two apps used together create a "killer app" combo that fundamentally alters how I use, and how much I use, my iPad. These two apps are &lt;a href="http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/instapaper/id288545208?mt=8"&gt;Instapaper&lt;/a&gt; and &lt;a href="http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/reeder-for-ipad/id375661689?mt=8"&gt;Reeder&lt;/a&gt;, each priced at $4.99.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Instapaper is a service that copies webpages to a central, cloud-based service. The idea is that a person might find an article they find interesting, but do not have time to read. They bookmark it with a special code from the Instapaper service (visually a "read it later" button) and they can come back to it when time and interest permit. I never thought that Instapaper seemed all that compelling on the desktop, nor on the iPhone. Sure, it was cool that you could save all the stuff you were reading to one place, but it just didn't seem worth the privacy loss.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Reeder is an iPad app that accesses your Google Reader account for RSS feeds (if you are not sure what an RSS feed is, you can read Wikipedia's article about it &lt;a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/RSS"&gt;here&lt;/a&gt;). Truthfully, I tried to use Google Reader and I never got into it. I liked browsing to my favorite websites each day over using the Google Reader interface that seemed clunky.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;These two apps together, however, have fundamentally altered how I read, save, and share the information I collect on a daily basis. The two, together in an iPad format, create a synthesis that I find convenient, compelling, and natural to use. I don't usually buy $5 apps that I'm not sure I'm going to like, but I did buy these based on some recommendations and decided to give them a try.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;I began by collecting the RSS feeds of all my various information sources. The list includes the web versions of Fox News, CNN, slashdot, BYU News, Mac Rumors, and others. Again, I had tried this before with Google Reader and had not enjoyed the experience. But, I gave it another go and updated Google Reader with all my current news and information sources.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;After updating Google Reader, I launched the iPad Reeder app and was instantly impressed by the interface. It organized the sources in a way that was easy to understand, and it had easy to use controls including "mark all as read". It also had settings to allow one to save a link or page directly to Instapaper.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Consequently, I purchased the Instapaper app and set up a free account. I updated my iPad's Safari browser to have a "Read it Later" bookmark and gave it a quick test. After saving a page, I switched back to my Instapaper app to read it. It downloaded it quickly and found that it generally did a good job of getting rid of all the cruft on a page (e.g., the ads and so forth). The interface was easy to use and the information was easy to read. More importantly, the information was available &lt;i&gt;offline&lt;/i&gt;. In other words, I would not need an Internet connection to read the content.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;My daily information consumption used to look like this:&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li&gt;Browse to 10 or so different information sources&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Look for something new&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Skim the article if time was limited&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Try to remember to come back to it later to read more thoroughly or share with others&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ol&gt;&lt;div&gt;But now, my daily information flow works like this:&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li&gt;In the morning: Open "Reeder" for the iPad&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Browse all the new news&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Send interesting stories to Instapaper&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;WALK AWAY (go to work, etc)&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;In the evening: Open "Instapaper" for the iPad&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Read the marked articles and file under different Instapaper folders&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Send articles I want to share to "Buzz"&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ol&gt;&lt;div&gt;There are a few problems with this system, of course. While articles are downloaded to the iPad and available for offline reading, it only keeps the 250 most recent articles. There are a few methods for getting permanent copies onto the iPad, but that aspect is still a little clunky. Also, there is a crash when moving items to folders (but it is &lt;a href="http://twitter.com/instapaper/statuses/46093300666605568"&gt;acknowledged&lt;/a&gt; and should be corrected in the next version). &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Despite these problems, however, I have never felt so organized in handling all of my daily news. These two apps together only cost $10 but have greatly increased my perceived value of the iPad.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/7140940542148385860-5852214180171692564?l=geekabytes.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/5852214180171692564/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2011/03/ipad-instapaper-reeder-are-you-kidding.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/5852214180171692564'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/5852214180171692564'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2011/03/ipad-instapaper-reeder-are-you-kidding.html' title='iPad + instapaper + reeder = ARE YOU KIDDING ME THIS IS SO AWESOME?!'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860.post-8647401604618062951</id><published>2011-03-14T19:35:00.001-07:00</published><updated>2011-03-14T19:37:30.785-07:00</updated><title type='text'>Update on eSafeKids</title><content type='html'>Today I received this email that I reproduce without modification or edits of any kind:&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="border-collapse: collapse; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; "&gt;&lt;blockquote&gt;Seth,&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This is Todd with eSafekids.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I stumped upon your blog when searching esafekids online, and it was good to know that we share the same faith in Christ, and in addition, you've found a good Internet Safety solution.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I am writing to you in hope that you will update your post about eSafekids that we have solved the problem by using SSL to protect all user data, and in addition, all user data on the server are automatically deleted after 7 days. Further more, user can choose to delete their data at any time.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I started eSafekids to help families. I think we share the same concern for Internet Safety for kids. eSafekids may not be perfect, but we are trying to make it better everyday for parents who are concerned with Internet Safety. Recently we just added safe-search enforcement on major search engines such as google images, youtube, yahoo images, and bing images to make eSafekids even more family-friendly. I hope you will consider trying it again.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If there is anything I can be of help, please let me know.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Sincerely,&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Todd&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Georgia, serif; font-size: 16px; border-collapse: separate; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); "&gt;I've already made my sentiments known elsewhere and have nothing further to add, so my only comment on this email is, "no comment".&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/7140940542148385860-8647401604618062951?l=geekabytes.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/8647401604618062951/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2011/03/update-on-esafekids.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/8647401604618062951'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/8647401604618062951'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2011/03/update-on-esafekids.html' title='Update on eSafeKids'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860.post-2679732044895699108</id><published>2011-01-31T06:50:00.001-08:00</published><updated>2011-01-31T07:38:20.441-08:00</updated><title type='text'>My Internet Safety Project</title><content type='html'>As I described in my previous &lt;a href="http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2011/01/esafekids-freaks-me-out.html"&gt;post&lt;/a&gt;, I had a very, &lt;b&gt;very&lt;/b&gt; bad run-in with an Internet Safety product. But, I was so frustrated with the experience, that I went back to searching online for a solution for our family needs. Our needs look something like this:&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;b&gt;Primarily Network-based Solution&lt;/b&gt;: Why? Because we have dozens of Internet accessible devices, many of which do not accept general software installation. You can't get "Net Nanny" for an iPhone or an iPad. I don't even think you can get it for a Wii. Now, we don't let our kids use the iPhones or iPads, nor do we let them browse on the Wii, but it seemed like the wisest course to plan Internet Safety for everyone in the house.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;b&gt;Filtration of Pornographic Sites&lt;/b&gt;: Why? Because accidents do happen. I was once searching for something &lt;a href="http://byu.edu"&gt;BYU&lt;/a&gt; and the link I clicked from Google was a porn site. Sites can engineer their webpages to include search terms that have nothing to do with them. This porn site had all kinds of search terms so that almost any search could find it. Normally search results like these go to the bottom of a Google search, but in this case, there was no legitimate match so all the "fake" matches were showing up. Filtration is a good way to eliminate most of these accidents.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;b&gt;Logging:&lt;/b&gt; Why? Because there are websites that slip through the filtration cracks and family members could have a weak moment. It would be good to get a "daily record" by email of all the websites visited. Ideally, this would be per-person and would also include logging of the search terms entered into Google, YouTube, and so forth.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ol&gt;&lt;div&gt;Well, I finally found a hybrid solution that gives me almost everything I want. It is a network based solution, filters pornographic sites, and does some general logging. What I don't get is logs of search terms entered, or logs per-person. Still, it works pretty great, and it was &lt;b&gt;free&lt;/b&gt;.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;The one downside for the general public: it required significant technical know-how. &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;b&gt;Part I: OpenDNS for Filtration&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;When you enter "www.google.com" into your web-browser, a bazillion things have to happen to get the page to show up. It's truly a miracle that it happens almost instantaneously. One of the first things that the browser has to do is find out where "www.google.com" is. Your computer is configured to know about special servers called "&lt;a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Domain_Name_System"&gt;DNS&lt;/a&gt;", or Domain Name Severs. Usually provided by your ISP, these servers tell your computer where "www.google.com" is and it converts it to a number that looks something like this: "72.14.204.103". &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;You can actually type the numeric address into your browser, by the way.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Anyway, OpenDNS is a service that provides DNS with some extra options. One of the extra options is Internet Filtration. They keep long lists of known porn sites, and also allow you to enter sites into your own personal list of sites you want blocked. This basic service is free. For an inexpensive upgrade, you get additional options including the ability to have your entire Internet access be whitelist only.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;By way of explanation, a black list is sites you do not want available, and a white list is the opposite. When you set up whitelist only Internet access, your computers can ONLY go to the sites you specify. &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Well, I signed up for the free service of OpenDNS and started experimenting with it. I have Verizon FiOS and the local router is web-managed. Here's where its starts getting technical. I had to browse to the location of the router using my browser, log-in, then change the DNS servers from the ones provided by Verizon, to the ones provided by OpenDNS. Not too challenging for someone who works with computers for their job (like me), but not point-and-click for less technical people.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Still, it worked great. I didn't want to test it by typing in a pornographic site, so, instead I added a perfectly safe site to my personal OpenDNS blacklist. It took about three minutes for everything to update, and I had to flush my computer's DNS cache. This is also not point-and-click, but the average user could just wait for a few hours for the cache to clear, so it isn't that big of a deal. But the point is, in just a couple of minutes, trying to go to this test page would bring up a different webpage that said "Site Blocked". Excellent!&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Unfortunately, that is where the easy part ends. If you are the least bit interested in this kind of safety solution, my suggestion would be to buy a NetGear router with OpenDNS support. This company is building support right into some of their products. From what I've read, it's pretty straight forward, and pretty darn effective.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;But having just been burned by an Internet Safety product, I decided I wasn't in the market to buy another one. I decided to make due with what I had. My biggest concern was a computer accidentally or purposefully configured with a different DNS. These servers are publicly accessible from all over the place, so a computer could be set up to ignore the OpenDNS servers, and talk to a different DNS server instead.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;To fix this, I modified my router to block any DNS access to anything except OpenDNS. This step was a bit complicated, and the Verizon FiOS router isn't the most fantastic piece of equipment I've ever used. I had to create a firewall rule that said &lt;b&gt;allow&lt;/b&gt; access to OpenDNS servers on port 53 (the port reserved for DNS), and &lt;b&gt;reject&lt;/b&gt; any other requests for port 53. Definitely not point-and-click.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;But it works, and it works great. So, the filtration part was done. Now, for the logging.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;b&gt;Part II: A Custom Python Script to Report Daily Web Usage&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;It turns out that the default Verizon router can send messages to another computer about what it is doing and seeing. With a little bit of non-obvious configuration, it can be set up to send messages about what websites are being requested. I finally figured out this setup and got the router to send these messages to the main desktop computer we use.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;On this desktop, I have a python installation, and I wrote a quick script to test that it could listen on the appropriate port (UDP 514) and receive the messages. Once I saw that I was getting data, I had to write a program to break these messages into pieces, figure out if it was an outgoing request, figure out where it was going, and record the time. It turns out that the outgoing requests are the internet addresses only, and I wanted host names. So, I also had to do a &lt;i&gt;reverse DNS lookup&lt;/i&gt; on the address.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;I record all of this information for one calendar day, and then at midnight, I draft an email to myself and my wife with the names of the websites visited, and how many times visited during the past day. I can access gmail from Python with very little effort, so I basically send a message from myself to myself (and Amy) with the information. We're still working out a few bugs, but the first couple of tests have been pretty successful. Here is an example report:&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;To: seth, amy&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;From: seth&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Subject: Nielson Family Internet Access Report &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Internet Access Report&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;UNIQUE DOMAIN ACCESSES&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;---------------------&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;  1e100.net: 25   &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;  2o7.net: 6      &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;  441gift.com: 1 &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;  ac.kr: 1        &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;  adbrite.com: 1  &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;  akamaitechnologies.com: 23      &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;  amazonaws.com: 3        &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;  apple.com: 1 &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;  ...&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;It's cluttered, of course, because most of the websites encountered will be ad servers (most of those are ad servers). Still, the list is short enough that it takes about 20 seconds to look through it. Amy and I figure we'll review web accesses every morning when we first wake up for just a couple of minutes. I think most adult sites will have stand out names because those sites tend to use stand out names (the clients don't want to "bookmark" the sites, so they have to make the names memorable).&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Obviously this part of the project requires a significant amount of technical knowledge, but if you are interested in this type of Internet Safety stuff, there are some off-the-shelf programs like "Wall Watcher" that can do much of this. Interested parties can always ask me for advice or help with setup.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Despite the complexity of the setup, I am very happy with the result. I hope that my experience is helpful to anyone looking to solve similar problems&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/7140940542148385860-2679732044895699108?l=geekabytes.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/2679732044895699108/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2011/01/my-internet-safety-project.html#comment-form' title='2 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/2679732044895699108'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/2679732044895699108'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2011/01/my-internet-safety-project.html' title='My Internet Safety Project'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>2</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860.post-453138293082416148</id><published>2011-01-30T18:30:00.001-08:00</published><updated>2011-01-30T18:52:32.388-08:00</updated><title type='text'>"ESafeKids" Freaks Me Out!</title><content type='html'>Alright, I'll admit, my family isn't "normal" when it comes to technology. I have a Ph.D. in Computer Science (emphasis: Security), my wife has a B.S. in Electrical Engineering, and my 9 year old picked up Powerpoint in about 2 seconds. We hardly have "stock" equipment too. We have 2 Windows machines, 2 Mac's, 2 iPhones, 1 iPad, 1 wii, and an assortment of other internet capable devices. Finally, our software is also eclectic with Firefox and Chrome in use as browsers, VPN's, secure tunnels, and (worst of all) virtual machines increasing the complexity.&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;If one or more of those terms don't mean anything to you, don't worry about it. Take "virtual machines" for example. The average American doesn't use (and doesn't need to use) them. I'm simply pointing out that we don't fit the average American technology profile in training, equipment, or software.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;And to get to the point, our lack of "normality" means that many Internet Safety devices and software just do not fit our needs.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;I worry a lot about Internet safety for our kids. I'm primarily worried about pornography. So far, we just don't let the kids use I/M or Facebook, and I feel like those issues can be largely concerned with appropriate training. But pornography, like a drug, can be life altering after just one accidental exposure.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Our solution has been to limit the kids use of the Internet to very limited, targeted sites when monitored directly by a parent. All portable Internet devices are reserved to parents, and non-portable devices are in wide-open, public spaces.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;But the fact of the matter is, Alex is reaching an age where the Internet would be useful for research and academics, and it will be unrealistic for us to monitor him every minute. I've known for the last year, or so, that we needed Internet protections in one form or another, and I was frustrated by how our technology situation did not seem to be addressed.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Finally, the other day, I found something that looked really promising. I heard about "&lt;a href="http://esafekids.com/a/home.php"&gt;http://esafekids.com&lt;/a&gt;" from the "&lt;a href="http://www.internetsafetyproject.org/"&gt;http://www.internetsafetyproject.org/&lt;/a&gt;" (run by my old advisor Dr. Charles Knutson). It looked like exactly what I needed. I thought that the device they were selling would sit between my home network and the outside world, filtering sites and monitoring traffic. I assumed that, like many home network devices, it would have a web interface.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;So, I ordered it to the tune of $120. It arrived a few days later and I opened it up to plug it in.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Well, I was shocked to find out that the device has no local web interface. Curious, I looked into it further and was even more shocked to find out that you were supposed to control it from the esafekids website! That seemed really strange to me and I called their tech support.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Not only did their rep confirm that you control the device from their servers, but he also told me that all your information is sent over the Internet to their servers WITHOUT ENCRYPTION. That is a privacy risk that blows my mind! I couldn't imagine such an insane, dangerous device and I told the rep that they were risking a lawsuit.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;The device is boxed up, and I'm sending it back for a refund tomorrow.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;The take away message is, be extra careful with people who are going to monitor your network. Malice should not be your biggest worry because Incompetence will almost always do the lion's share of the damage. But your private information is very valuable and you should always look twice (or more!) at people offering to handle your valuables.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/7140940542148385860-453138293082416148?l=geekabytes.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/453138293082416148/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2011/01/esafekids-freaks-me-out.html#comment-form' title='2 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/453138293082416148'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/453138293082416148'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2011/01/esafekids-freaks-me-out.html' title='&quot;ESafeKids&quot; Freaks Me Out!'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>2</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860.post-6172971762120396514</id><published>2010-12-06T19:06:00.001-08:00</published><updated>2010-12-06T19:06:02.922-08:00</updated><title type='text'>Children give the best gifts!</title><content type='html'>Tonight while the wife and kids were putting up the christmas tree, I noticed the sink in the half bath on the main floor was not draining. "How exciting!" I thought. "The kids use this bathroom a lot," my inner self went on to point out, "they probably hid an early Christmas present in there for you! How festive!"&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Of course, my children being the good sports that they are &lt;i&gt;pretended&lt;/i&gt; that they had no idea what the surprise was. But I knew it had to be a big present! The water wasn't draining at all!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;By now, I was truly in the spirit of the adventure and just dying to know the surprise. I thought it might be some of the kids favorite leaves, or maybe all the toothpaste from a tube dried and hardened in the drain! I'm so glad they gave me this gift early! If I had to wait until Christmas, I don't think I could sleep at night!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Well, I tried some drano gel to get the Yuletide party started. It came in a wonderful deep red container, a perfect color for Christmas!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;At first, I thought I had uncovered my surprise, because the drano gel slowly settled to the bottom of the non-draining sink of water, and then beautiful tentacles of brown mist began to emerge! My children are &lt;i&gt;so&lt;/i&gt; artistic. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;But after two shows using the gel, the sink was still very slow to drain, and I realized that my loving children had &lt;i&gt;more&lt;/i&gt; in store for me! "Can it get any better," I thought?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Now I just couldn't stand the anticipation. Pulling out my toolbox, I started disassembling my sink. I eagerly removed the u-joint under the sink and started sifting through a lot of stuff I couldn't identify, but I was sure wasn't the gift. I was disappointed! Where could it be?!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Then suddenly, I found it! Finally, I saw my gift stuck in the drain itself!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;center&gt;&lt;a href='http://blogpress.w18.net/photos/10/12/06/2982.jpg'&gt;&lt;img src='http://blogpress.w18.net/photos/10/12/06/s_2982.jpg' border='0' width='210' height='281' style='margin:5px'&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/center&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;You know, they say it isn't the gifts at Christmas that matter, but I disagree. I think this gift is something the kids have been working on for months! I'm sure I'll never forget it!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;- Posted using BlogPress from my iPhone&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/7140940542148385860-6172971762120396514?l=geekabytes.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/6172971762120396514/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2010/12/children-give-best-gifts.html#comment-form' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/6172971762120396514'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/6172971762120396514'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2010/12/children-give-best-gifts.html' title='Children give the best gifts!'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860.post-6933256372620662926</id><published>2010-10-28T06:08:00.001-07:00</published><updated>2010-10-28T06:08:22.155-07:00</updated><title type='text'>We built a destroyer last night! How was you're evening?</title><content type='html'>Last night, the kids and I built a destroyer out of legos! Let me add, we designed this ourselves and did not work from any external instructions. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;center&gt;&lt;a href='http://blogpress.w18.net/photos/10/10/28/616.jpg'&gt;&lt;img src='http://blogpress.w18.net/photos/10/10/28/s_616.jpg' border='0' width='281' height='210' style='margin:5px'&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/center&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Notice the turrets on the front and the radar on the tower. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;center&gt;&lt;a href='http://blogpress.w18.net/photos/10/10/28/617.jpg'&gt;&lt;img src='http://blogpress.w18.net/photos/10/10/28/s_617.jpg' border='0' width='281' height='210' style='margin:5px'&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/center&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This view from the back shows the helicopter landing pad&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;center&gt;&lt;a href='http://blogpress.w18.net/photos/10/10/28/621.jpg'&gt;&lt;img src='http://blogpress.w18.net/photos/10/10/28/s_621.jpg' border='0' width='281' height='210' style='margin:5px'&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/center&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This view shows the hull better. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;center&gt;&lt;a href='http://blogpress.w18.net/photos/10/10/28/624.jpg'&gt;&lt;img src='http://blogpress.w18.net/photos/10/10/28/s_624.jpg' border='0' width='210' height='281' style='margin:5px'&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/center&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This birds eye view is pretty cool too!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;- Posted using BlogPress from my iPhone&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/7140940542148385860-6933256372620662926?l=geekabytes.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/6933256372620662926/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2010/10/we-built-destroyer-last-night-how-was.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/6933256372620662926'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/6933256372620662926'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2010/10/we-built-destroyer-last-night-how-was.html' title='We built a destroyer last night! How was you&amp;#39;re evening?'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860.post-4783338502074367265</id><published>2010-10-19T07:55:00.001-07:00</published><updated>2010-10-19T08:07:02.457-07:00</updated><title type='text'>Family Home Evening Lesson Idea</title><content type='html'>Last night for our family home evening lesson, I wanted to teach a lesson about scripture study to children ages 4, 7, and 8. I was trying to think hard about what kind of object lesson might grab their attention. After some pondering, I had an inspiration.&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;I asked the children to write instructions for something they knew how to do that they thought was kind of complicated. The instructions had to have at least ten steps. The 4-year-old doesn't write yet, so I had him draw pictures (he drew a person putting up a force-field to deflect grenades and bombs... that's certainly a complicated thing to do!).&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;When everyone was done, I had them read their instructions out loud. Then, I started to ask the following questions:&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li&gt;Are there steps in your list that if someone doesn't know how to do, they would have to learn first?&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;If the person your teaching won't learn those prerequisite steps, will you still give them these instructions? Why not?&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Once someone is ready for these instructions, can they learn them just by reading them? Will they be able to really understand without actually trying them out?&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;How will you feel if the learner asks for help if they obviously haven't even read these instructions?&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;How will you feel if the learner asks for help if they aren't making any effort to understand and try out the instructions?&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;How will the learner's questions be different once they've really learned the instructions and tried to do them? On a related note, how will their ability to understand your answers be improved?&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ol&gt;&lt;div&gt;Both of the older children were able to think about these questions and understand the ideas. We had a good discussion (and we let the 4-year-old continue to draw his grenades). Then, it became fairly easy to apply these things to the scriptures.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li&gt;Before God can teach us certain principles, we have to learn more basic ones.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;If we can't learn the basic ones first, He cannot give us more light and knowledge&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;We won't learn principles by just reading, or even studying; we must apply&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;God is hesitant to answer our prayers before we've exercised faith through studying the answers he's already given us&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;He would really like us to have given the existing Word some real thought and attempts to obey it&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Once we've worked hard to know the existing Word and apply it, our prayers will be more meaningful because the questions we ask will be more appropriate, and our minds will be more prepared for His answers.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ol&gt;&lt;div&gt;It was a really nice Family Home Evening and the children enjoyed both the activity and the subsequent discussion. As a side note, it fits well with the "Preach my Gospel" chapter on effective scripture study.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;And we topped it all off with Daddy's homemade pumpkin pie (from scratch!). Can't get much better than that!&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/7140940542148385860-4783338502074367265?l=geekabytes.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/4783338502074367265/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2010/10/family-home-evening-lesson-idea.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/4783338502074367265'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/4783338502074367265'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2010/10/family-home-evening-lesson-idea.html' title='Family Home Evening Lesson Idea'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860.post-3690940291256438080</id><published>2010-10-06T07:51:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2010-10-06T12:00:02.807-07:00</updated><title type='text'>A Week of Laughs!!!</title><content type='html'>Oh boy! We had some good ones this week!!!! Two from Alex, and one from Drystan.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Alex's first funny was after hearing Amy and me reflect on scenes from our childhood. Then he said, "That's another reason I want to be older. So I could think back to my childhood."&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;We though his pining for nostalgia was pretty funny.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;But that was eclipsed by the dream he had one night. He dreamed that he tried to give a person some food and they wouldn't eat it because of its &lt;span style="font-weight:bold;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-style:italic;"&gt;carbon footprint!&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;And last, but not least, Drystan made us laugh today. While teaching Alex and Drystan a new testament class, I was discussing Nicodemus and his discussion with Jesus. We were talking about how when Jesus said that a man must be born again, Nicodemus asked how a man could go back into his Mother's womb again. I said that Nicodemus totally missed it, and I asked what they thought Jesus did next.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Drystan thought for a moment, then said, "He smacked his head with his hand." (i.e., *facepalm*)&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Laughs all around!!!!&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/7140940542148385860-3690940291256438080?l=geekabytes.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/3690940291256438080/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2010/10/week-of-laughs.html#comment-form' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/3690940291256438080'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/3690940291256438080'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2010/10/week-of-laughs.html' title='A Week of Laughs!!!'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860.post-5539272761160392552</id><published>2010-08-13T11:13:00.001-07:00</published><updated>2010-08-13T11:16:10.013-07:00</updated><title type='text'>Far Away Frontiers: Guggle</title><content type='html'>Congrats to my friend Nicholas Pakidko. He has just launched a game company called &lt;a href="http://www.farawayfrontiers.com/"&gt;Faraway Frontiers.&lt;/a&gt; His first game is an iphone game called &lt;a href="http://www.farawayfrontiers.com/guggle/"&gt;Guggle&lt;/a&gt;. It's pretty cool, so you iphone users should give it a try.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/7140940542148385860-5539272761160392552?l=geekabytes.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/5539272761160392552/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2010/08/far-away-frontiers-guggle.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/5539272761160392552'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/5539272761160392552'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2010/08/far-away-frontiers-guggle.html' title='Far Away Frontiers: Guggle'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860.post-2140545401049291425</id><published>2010-03-02T16:58:00.001-08:00</published><updated>2010-03-02T18:34:20.068-08:00</updated><title type='text'>Beware the Dark Side</title><content type='html'>I always loved Star Wars as a kid; and I still do, despite the unfortunate prequels.&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;One of my favorite quotes is from The Empire Strikes Back.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;LUKE: &lt;i&gt;Is the dark side stronger?&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;YODA: &lt;i&gt;No... no... no... quicker, easier, more seductive.&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;LUKE: &lt;i&gt;But how am I to know the good side from the bad?&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;YODA: &lt;i&gt;You will know. When you are calm, at peace.&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;i&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;I've been thinking a lot about the Dark Side over the last few days. The Dark Side of parenting. Like in the Star Wars movies it involves anger, fear, and aggression.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;I will fully admit that I believe that parents need to have high expectations of their children. I also believe that parents must provide boundaries for their children, and those boundaries must be enforced with discipline. I believe that parents should enforce rules, order, and responsibilities.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;In short, you might call me &lt;i&gt;authoritative&lt;/i&gt;.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;At the same time, I also believe in love, affection, and positive reinforcement. I believe in children feeling safe and happy in their homes. I believe in listening and empathizing with children.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;I see no discrepancy between these two sets of beliefs. I believe that children are happier and feel safer in a home with high expectations and strong boundaries. I think that what might appear authoritative at first is actually a foundation for happiness at home.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Unfortunately, it is far too easy for me to justify my poor behavior as a parent in the name of those principles. I can justify yelling at the children because they need to know that what they were doing was wrong. Or I can justify making a sarcastic remark about a child's poor decision making because I expect them to do better. How pathetic.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Thank heavens for good friends who inspire me to be a little better.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;While visiting a good friend last weekend, he shared two bits of profound wisdom with me that I will treasure for the rest of my life.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li&gt;There is no "trade off" between being having a strong relationship with a child and "teaching them truth" (those are his words, I would say "have high expectations" and "strict rules").&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;We weren't born to be subordinate. No one likes to be bossed. We must have &lt;i&gt;empathy&lt;/i&gt; with our children.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ol&gt;&lt;div&gt;His words really struck home. I cannot hide my destruction of my relationship with my children behind my responsibilities as their parent. I cannot ignore or disregard their emotions and feelings, especially as relates to their interactions with me.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;So, if I cannot respond to my children's bad behavior with anger, how should I respond? The Doctrine and Covenants of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints says, &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;"No power or influence can or ought to be maintained ... [but] by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness, by meekness, and by love unfeigned; By kindness, and pure knowledge, which shall greatly enlarge the soul, and without guile - Reproving betimes with sharpness when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing afterwards an increase of love..."&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;But if I have to discipline my children, how do I give them punishment with "gentleness" and "meekness" and "love unfeigned"? How will I know when I'm giving them a punishment because of "love unfeigned" instead of out of anger and fear and aggression?&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;Well, I think the Star Wars answer is pretty good: "You will know. When you are calm. At Peace."&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;But even better is the scriptural suggestion, "reproving betimes with sharpness&lt;i&gt; when moved upon by the Holy Ghost&lt;/i&gt;." And certainly there is nothing mysterious about showing afterwards an increase of love.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;As with Star Wars, the dark side of parenting is not more powerful, but it is easy and seductive. It can even achieve short-term "results". I'm ashamed to admit that I have been seduced by said results too often.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div&gt;So, my first step in stepping out of the dark side is to end the yelling. I want a home of peace, even when there must be "reproof with sharpness". I love them and I want to maintain a relationship with them. The children are only children for a very short time. I need to make the changes now that will improve the peace in our home in the present, and build relationships that last forever.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/7140940542148385860-2140545401049291425?l=geekabytes.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/2140545401049291425/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2010/03/beware-dark-side.html#comment-form' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/2140545401049291425'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/2140545401049291425'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2010/03/beware-dark-side.html' title='Beware the Dark Side'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860.post-544176371451140561</id><published>2009-04-21T15:11:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2009-04-21T15:14:10.523-07:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Wisdom'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Alex'/><title type='text'>Adapting My Culture</title><content type='html'>Kids say the strangest things.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Kids that read dictionaries to learn new words for fun say even stranger things!!!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I asked Alex a few days ago how he would feel about having a baby sister (we are NOT making an announcement here... this was hypothetical).&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;He said, "I don't think I could adapt my culture to that."&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/7140940542148385860-544176371451140561?l=geekabytes.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/544176371451140561/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2009/04/adapting-my-culture.html#comment-form' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/544176371451140561'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/544176371451140561'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2009/04/adapting-my-culture.html' title='Adapting My Culture'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860.post-7107232070975020711</id><published>2009-04-13T06:49:00.000-07:00</published><updated>2009-04-13T06:52:03.511-07:00</updated><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Kael'/><category scheme='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#' term='Wisdom'/><title type='text'>Out of the mouth of babes</title><content type='html'>To conserve on resources, my family has only one vehicle and today, my wife was dropping me off at work before going on some errands with the children.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;As we were preparing to leave, my just-turned-three-year-old asked me if I was going with them to the library. I said, no, you are dropping me off at work. Surprised, he asked again if I was going to the library, and again, I said, no, I have to go to work.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;He paused, and then said with sincere compassion, "Ohhhhhhhh mmmmmmman".&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/7140940542148385860-7107232070975020711?l=geekabytes.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/7107232070975020711/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2009/04/out-of-mouth-of-babes.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/7107232070975020711'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/7107232070975020711'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2009/04/out-of-mouth-of-babes.html' title='Out of the mouth of babes'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860.post-5307579707084052688</id><published>2008-12-12T07:36:00.000-08:00</published><updated>2008-12-12T07:39:08.078-08:00</updated><title type='text'>REPOST: continuing christmas invitation</title><content type='html'>&lt;p&gt;I wrote this 2 years ago. Moving it over from old blog. Seems like a nice time to repost it!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Tonight, while I was working on some research, I was also playing the film "Joy to the World", a Christmas production by the Church of Jesus Christ, of Latter-day Saints. As I watched the depiction of the birth of the Son of God, I thought of how wonderful it would be to have been there. I was thinking of how I might have felt in His presence.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;And yet, I think that such wistful thinking is unnecessary and misguided on my part. Is Christ dead? Is his presence unattainable? Are the gifts and blessings and powers of his presence unattainable? Did not Jesus say that greater works would be done after his mortal ministry (St. John 14:12) because he would send his Spirit unto us (St. John 16:7)? Is not the invitation to come unto Him still extended?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In truth, Christ's arm is always extended to me. No, that is too passive. He is actively knocking at the door of my heart (Rev 3:20), but only I can open the door. But maybe opening my door would require me to leave my fishing nets. Perhaps I've been offered 30 pieces of silver to keep the door closed. Or maybe I'm afraid that his loving voice, and gentle hands that have me engraven upon them, will accompany a charge to "go and sin no more".&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In Christ's time, the man with Palsy desired Christ's presence, and had himself let down through a roof. He was with Him for a few minutes perhaps.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;The wise men journeyed who knows how many miles to see him for just long enough to deliver their gifts of love.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;The gentile woman begged and pleaded at his feet for a crumb from his table and presumably never saw him again.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;These people all paid high (wordly) prices for a few minutes of his presence. But to me, he offers his uninterrupted company through His Spirit if I will but sacrifice my hardened heart and proud spirit on the alter. It is so easy, to wish that I had been at his birth, or long for his return to the earth. But to follow Him here - to be in the world and not a part of it - is the real challenge. A challenge that requires, refines, and develops faith.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Thanks be to God for his mighty wisdom and love for His children. How wonderous is his plan that places me in a state to &lt;em&gt;act&lt;/em&gt;. A plan that allows me to learn by experience good from evil, and develop faith in His Son. A plan that provides a perfect and eternal Atonement so that this mortal learning experience will not stain and destroy my spirit.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;The invitation to come unto Jesus is still extended. His hand knocks at my door still.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Oh that I might keep my door open to him always and receive the peace he is so willing to give.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/7140940542148385860-5307579707084052688?l=geekabytes.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/5307579707084052688/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2008/12/repost-continuing-christmas-invitation.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/5307579707084052688'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/5307579707084052688'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2008/12/repost-continuing-christmas-invitation.html' title='REPOST: continuing christmas invitation'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7140940542148385860.post-8400871418898079731</id><published>2008-12-12T07:25:00.000-08:00</published><updated>2008-12-12T07:26:15.419-08:00</updated><title type='text'>Moved!</title><content type='html'>This is the future home of geekabytes.net, the Nielson's personal blog. Geekabytes.net was formerly hosted on a wordpress install at Rice University where Seth was a student. It also had a lot of spam.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Hopefully, this version won't have this problem.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/7140940542148385860-8400871418898079731?l=geekabytes.blogspot.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/feeds/8400871418898079731/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2008/12/moved.html#comment-form' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/8400871418898079731'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/7140940542148385860/posts/default/8400871418898079731'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://geekabytes.blogspot.com/2008/12/moved.html' title='Moved!'/><author><name>Seth Nielson</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/16718541661046301116</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:total>0</thr:total></entry></feed>
